How would you like to wake up one day and realize that everything you have done to get your ex back, has actually backfired back in your face, big time?
Obviously it isn't something we expect when we are trying to get our ex back, but the truth of the matter is, there is actually a WRONG way to get an ex back, and more than 90% of people end up taking the wrong route.
That is why you need to be aware of what works and more so what DOESN'T work to get your ex back, at all costs...
Sleeping with an ex
You immediately go back to another ex and sleep with them, or even just spend the night with them... and proceed to tell your ex. You should NOT sleep with an ex to try and make your ex feel guilty or jealous, as this will make them hate you and never want you back.
Never sleep with an ex to try and get your current ex back, because it really makes your ex feel as though you are disloyal and cheating on them, because one minute you are telling them you want them back, but the next you are out seeing other people.
Promising change, but not delivering on it
This is a huge mistake. You MUST deliver on the change you promise, and better yet, don't even promise change, but rather just DO it.
You should also understand that your ex doesn't really want you to drastically change everything and act like someone you are not, because this is not the person they fell in love with. But rather, they want you to change so you can be your best self.
Demanding to see your ex
This means giving ultimatums and threatening your ex to come back to you "or else". Your ex doesn't care if they are going to lose you, because right now you have made them mad and upset, and the more you threaten them on these things and demand to see them, the more convinced he/she will become that they really did make the right decision to avoid you.
Mourning your loss
I cannot stress how pathetic this really looks, when you go into mourning because of a breakup. Human beings are NOT attracted to those who become weak during important moments, such as during turmoil, and this is never going to make your ex want you back.
Instead, it only tells them that you are more weak and vulnerable than they thought, and at best, it will only make themfeel sorry for you but will also make them lose respect for you.
Do things just seem to not be working out between your ex and you? Are you desperately trying to get in touch with your ex, but he/she just doesn't seem to want to respond to your emails?
You see, if you are in this situation, where your ex is trying to avoid you, then you need to carefully follow these 3 important steps so that you can make your ex return your emails....
Change gears
You are always trying to chase your ex around, which means you are desperately going out of your way to see your ex and bump into him/her. Instead of doing this, try to avoid your ex. Changing gears will give your ex a dose of their own medicine, and trust me, he/she won't like it.
You see, once you change gears, you make your ex see things differently, and it will really get your ex thinking and feeling lonely. Their loneliness will create a void, because you are gone, and they will actually go back and re-read the old emails and things you sent, and in turn will start to get curious about you again.
Shifting your own focus
While you are changing gears, it's time to shift your own focus and instead of focusing on getting your ex back, think about OTHER things.
Yes! It may sound crazy, but when you shift your focus, you help the situation, because you won't be thinking over and over about how badly you want your ex back, which also means you won't jeopardize the situation by doing something which you know you shouldn't.
You see, any time that we are constantly thinking about something, this pushes our mind to dominate our body and our body then wants to go towards this thing. That is why you can sometimes say things you "didn't mean", and then of course find it hard to take things back once they are already said or done.
The same applies to your ex, which is why you must shift your focus to something else, such as self improvement, your work, or virtually anything that gets you ahead, but doesn't make you want to do desperate things around your ex.
Keep out of touch
Finally, the key to getting your ex back, when they are ignoring you, is to get out of touch. This is the most vital step, because it will be the turning point of everything.
Your ex expects you to contact him/her always and when you do not, they instantly start seeking your attention, and will start thinking about you again, and when combined with the first two tips, it will get your ex to return your emails, and in fact it will make your ex want to talk to you again.
In this day and age "talk is cheap" and most definitely this stands to be 100% true for anyone who wants to get their ex back. You have to remember that your ex already knows what kind of a person you are, and they know so much about you. This means that your words are no longer as powerful as your ACTIONS.
This is why you really have to PROVE to your ex the reasons why they should take you back, so that they can in turn be 100% convinced to do it! Use these 15 MUST DO'S to make your ex take you back....
1. No trash talking- in fact, do not talk to anyone about your ex, because it may backfire if they tell your ex that you are depressed.
2. Be thankful for the breakup, so that your ex psychologically feels rejected and wants you back.
3. Obey the "no contact" rule, and stop talking to your ex for 2 weeks, so that they can stop taking you for granted.
4. Understand the breakup- know it's causes and avoid the same issues this time around, and make an effort to change.
5. Be aware of your ex's needs- once you know what they want, you can get to work and do the things they need.
6. Get rid of any bad habits- be your best self so that your ex can see you have improved!
7. Be spontaneous- be outgoing and make your ex think that they were the one's holding you back, so that they feel guilty.
8. Say why you are sorry- instead of just saying "sorry", explain what you are sorry for, so that your ex feels you aren't just saying it to beg them back, but rather mean it.
9. Get back on the dating scene- this can make your ex jealous and make them take you back.
10. Get into shape- workout, exercise, eat healthy, so you can feel and look better, and so that you can attract your ex back to you.
11. Keep living life- instead of stopping everything live life again so your ex can see you on your own two feet.
12. Don't respond to your ex right away- instead ignore them and cut things short so they are left wanting more.
13. Become upbeat- no one likes a sourpuss or someone who moans and whines all the time because they are depressed. Your ex will become more curious if you are upbeat.
14. Play hard to get and never give your ex anything without them earning it first this time.
15. Befriend new people- surround yourself with some new people so your ex can envy you, and become curious about your life now.
